#NEVERAGAIN

I always pause and give serious thought to writing about hot button issues on the blog.  General theory is that it’s “bad for your business or brand” to comment on anything politically charged. But today I  find the topic of gun violence in America neither political or something I’m willing to ignore for the sake of my brand.  I believe that the serious issue of senseless deaths in the country from mass shootings and gun violence isn’t political but rather a humanitarian issue of the highest order. Its about moral values and what we as a people treasure above all and are willing to sacrifice lives to protect.

And as of right now, apparently thats guns.

As someone who lives in a very liberal state with rather tough gun laws (check your state grade here), I have not been as directly affected as many of you. We have a ban on high capacity magazines and semi-automatic weapons and require all gun purchasers to obtain a license. However, we do not impose a waiting period (arggghhhh!).   So thankfully these issues are not something I encounter every day.  If someone were to walk through my local Target with a gun slung over their shoulder- shit would hit the fan, even though you can open-carry with a license to do so.  Guns just are not a big part of our local culture here.  But that doesn’t mean that I’m going to sit back and be quiet.  It doesn’t mean I’m not scared shitless to send my sweet boy off to pre-school next year.  Just look at Connecticut which has some of the strictest gun laws in the country, and the unfathomable Sandy Hook tragedy that occurred there. State laws are a good start, but they do not solve this problem.

I cannot look at the pictures of those sweet children’s faces and not picture my own child’s among them. And the shooting in Florida is a reminder that we did nothing about it then, and so here we are again.  And next time it could be Henry.  And that sinking feeling of dread and fear makes me want to go flip dumpsters in the parking lot in rage. For these kids. Their parents. And every other person or relative of a person killed in the over 150 mass shootings we’ve had in this country  (400 people have been shot in over 200 school shootings since Sandy Hook alone!) I mean, the CPSC banned LAWN DARTS after three children were killed and a few more injured from playing with them. LAWN DARTS YOU GUYS.  And yet with guns, we can’t come to a unanimous decision that we need to do something.  It’s pathetic.

I’ve been vocal about this topic on Instagram and Facebook and have heard a variety of arguments against gun control reform.  I am not someone calling for a complete 180 on our gun laws. I’m not advocating “taking all your guns away”.  With proper background checks, waiting periods, licensing requirements and common sense Red Flag Laws, I think its possible to responsibly own  a handgun or shotgun for self-defense or hunting.  I, however, think that all semi-automatic guns and/or at least high capacity magazines used with guns like the AR-15, should be banned.  There is no reason a civilian needs access to this grade of weapon. NO NEED.  And I’ve heard and read so many arguments against this practical, life-saving concept that really make my blood boil. For example:

The Second Amendment gives me the right to bear arms.

When the second amendment was written there weren’t semi-automatic weapons and America didn’t extend past the Mississippi River (and also the “frontier” was basically lawless so you HAD to defend yourself- as well as hunt for food).  It was legal to own slaves in some states and women couldn’t vote. THINGS HAVE CHANGED, PEOPLE.    The evolution of society and it’s technology require us to adapt our laws to reflect the modern day issues.  This is why Constitutional Amendments have been passed.  Other countries have changed their laws on guns after far fewer mass killings and rampant violence and IT’S PROVEN TO WORK.  The evidence lies in the numbers, which CANNOT be disputed.

Crazy People Kill People, Not Guns

Women suffer from mental health issue just as much as men, so why aren’t there a bunch of female mass shooters too?   And mental illness is just as present in other countries, so why are their numbers not as hideous as ours? Oh right– gun control laws.  Don’t get me wrong, mental health absolutely plays a part in this, we do not do enough as a country to support those that are suffering through proper health care (even if you have it, usually the coverage is basic and short lived).  But lets stop the gushing artery bleed before we address the cancer.  Mental health reform will take much longer and is much more complicated a task. Lets start by taking the really crazy weapons out of the hands of the ill.  Then lets try to help them get better.  You don’t give a toddler a knife and then slowly start teaching it how to use it, because in the meantime they will hurt themselves and others. DUH.

But Cars Can Be Used To Kill People And We Don’t Ban Them

This one really makes me want to scream.  Cars have other purposes than killing people. Transportation for one. An AR-15 has one purpose- to take as many lives as possible as efficiently as possible.  You can’t ride an AR-15 to work. It’s not going to teach your kids how to read.  Never mind the fact that cars are regulated better than guns!  I mean, you can’t just choose a military tank as your family vehicle because you think its cool.  Those kind of vehicles are to be handled by trained professionals only– for a reason.  No one is saying that banning semi-automatics is going to end all killing- there is too much hate in this world for that- but it’s a start.  Sure, someone could drive a car into a crowd. Absolutely. But why not give them fewer options on how to murder groups of people? Why not TRY???  It’s like saying- well, we can’t cure all cancer so lets not cure ANY cancer. That’s just stupid.

Good Guys With Guns Stop Bad Guys With Guns

So we should just arm EVERYONE? We should be giving our sweet kindergarten teachers an apple and a Glock? Or spend zillions of dollars on armed guards for every public place? We don’t have that kind of money, and I certainly don’t want to live in a society where everyone has to carry a gun. It would basically bring us back to the Wild West.  And there are many instances where this argument holds about as much water as a sieve– Las Vegas for one (good lucky taking out a sniper), Orlando for another (if everyone had a gun in a dark, crowded nightclub can you even imagine how many more deaths there would be from confusion and terror?)

Bad Guys Will Get Access To Guns No Matter What Laws We Put in Place

I’m going to call bullshit on that one right off the bat.  Even if that were true, WHY NOT MAKE IT HARDER???  Why not make it really, really difficult to buy an AR-15 than have it take 5 minutes in your local Walmart? And no, you can’t use heroin or some other illegal drug as an example of laws not working properly.  They don’t offer heroin at Whole Foods, you can’t just waltz into Starbucks and order a latte with a side of meth.  There are a lot of deaths from illegal (and some legal) drugs, but at least we TRY.  We recognize the danger and make policy change based on evidence. So why not with guns?

Ok, now my heart is racing and I’m typing very violently.   I have reached a point where I have to say something and do something.  And I would call on other people with a platform, large or small, to do the same.  It’s time.  We are failing our children as adults. We are not protecting them, and they are fed up with our inaction.  And in time, I do believe these changes will happen because those kids will age and become voters and politicians and will do it themselves.  But lets not wait for them to grow up and in the meantime suffer through countless more shootings. Lets do it for them and act like the responsible caring adults we know how to be.

Get involved- I signed up for Moms Demand Action locally and will volunteer my time and my money.  I’ve also donated to Everytown and Sandy Hook Promise.  It’s time to stop just talking about this and DO SOMETHING. It requires effort and time, which is hard, I know– but this is important. I don’t want Henry to grow up and ask me what I did to stop this and have to tell him “Oh,I wrote a blog post”. I will meet.  I will march. I will do whatever it takes. Even it all that effort results in just ONE person changing their stance on our gun laws.

Because I cannot and will not sit down and take it. I have to do something.

For my son. For everyone’s son.

 

With Respect,

Erin

Fashion Friday: Current Fave Beauty Buys

Many of you recently asked about my current favorite beauty products and so I thought I’d share those today. I tend to re-purchase only a few things because I love testing new stuff (especially when it comes to foundation, concealer, blush and mascara!) Here are the best of the best right now:

SHOP:


The deets:

  1. This lipgloss (in Red Currant) is a super sheer red/pink that just makes your lips look healthy and happy.
  2. My most fave concealer right now.
  3. I got a sample of this foundation and really like it- it’s super lightweight but covers a lot and has a matte finish.
  4. I also just finally tossed by drugstore hairdryer in the guest bath and treated myself to the Harry Josh hairdryer and it’s GREAT! Not to mention compact, light and pretty. And 20% off right now!
  5. Chanel makes such nice makeup, and this blush in Rosewood is a fantastic staple that looks fresh and natural.
  6. I’m on my second bottle of this daytime moisturizer– it feels great on my skin and has SPF 30.
  7. My FAAAAAAVE face wash. Also on my second huge bottle. Adore the smell, my skin feels clean but moisturized and it’s all natural.
  8. Another fave Tammy Fender product– this is like a mini-facial. You put it on like a mask and let it sit for 5 minutes and then wash your fact with it (it’s a fine grain scrub). Glowy skin in minutes!
  9. This handwash is luxe but smells so good….
  10. And the hand sanitizer version is insanely yummy. No alcohol smell or dryness. Awesome treat for this terrifying flu season.
  11. Such a great mascara. It keep selling out for a reason. Plus Wander is cruelty free which I love.
  12. I never use eyeliner pencils or markers- only a wet skinny angled brush and Laura Mercier cake liner (14.)  It creates the cleanest line in my opinion.
  13. This milky serum creates such a soft, glossy, frizz-free blowout.

Latest Fave Finds

I’m on a train back from a work trip to NYC and way behind on , well, everything so here’s a quick post sharing some recent finds/purchases of mine/ for my clients that I am just loving…..

  1.  I just got this faux fur blanket for bed and it is THE BEST faux I have ever had. OBSESSED.
  2. I also got these Juliska mugs and they make me SO happy every time I make coffee in the morning. Perfect size, weight, handle, etc.
  3. I splurged on two of these Aerin frames for my house and they are like jewelry for my side tables. SO good.
  4. Sometimes it’s the little things- this spoon rest came back with me from Vermont and its adorable and functional.
  5. We are using these Bastideaux pillows on a project and I am OBSESSED with this print. OBSESSED.
  6. Kayce Hughes just did some small commissions for us, but I am loving this guy for myself :)
  7. I needed toy storage for our new family room but also wanted it to function as secondary seating.  Enter this bench from Ballard Designs– well made, offers lots of space for Legos and dinosaurs and a perfect perch for when entertaining. I’m having a custom cushion made for the top.
  8. After seeing a similar color on my trip to New York at Roman & Williams insanely good Guild shop/restaurant, I’m really wanting to paint a paneled library in a high gloss formula of Ben Moore’s Templeton Gray.
  9. I picked up a couple of these art stands, so perfect for propping up small paintings or prints on bookshelves or consoles.
  10. We ordered two of these sculptural Baker beauties for a New York City project and I cannot wait to see them in person. Breathtaking.

HAPPY VALENTINES DAY!!!!!

Antiquing: The Neoclassic Style

In the recent couple of years I have become more interested in incorporating antiques into my designs and my home.  And with that I have noticed some trends in the styles and periods I find myself most drawn to and thought I’d share some of the knowledge I’ve picked up in my antiquing travels.

The most broad term for the types of furniture and accents I find myself buying lately is Neoclassical, which is a sort of umbrella term that includes the sub-styles of Louis XVI, Directoire and Empire styles from France and the Federal and Empire styles in America during the late 18th century.  Based on the historical, classic architecture and design of Greece and Rome– these styles favor straight, rectilinear lines and pure geometric shapes (unlike the more curvy and ornate styles of the Rococo period before it).

Side note: Look Ma! My college degree is being used right now!!!!

OK, just had to call out my use of my (rusty) art history knowledge. Anyway, I love this style, especially when mixed with modern accents to really create an  interesting and tension-filled juxtaposition. Darryl Carter is the master of this look, in my opinion:

Look how that coffee table makes all the antique pieces look so fresh and modern! LOVE!

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Valentine Day Gifts

Valentines Day snuck up on me this year, and while I never make a big deal about it (much like New Years- #overrated) I do like grabbing some little gifts keeping in the theme my mom used when we were growing up– gifts must be red, pink or heart themed (This does not to apply to jewelry though, because we make the rules) :)  I’ve extended this include gifts of booze because that’s romantic right?

1. (an excuse to buy yet another striped tee) // 2. // 3. // 4. (these are SO good) // 5. // 6. // 7. (choose the heart charm to go inside!) // 8. // 9. (comes with the antiqued trophy vase!)// 10. // 11. // 12. // 13. // 14. // 15. // 16. // 17. (my fave pink champagne) // 18. // 19. // 20.

1. // 2. (Andrew wants this) // 3. // 4. (another Andrew fave- and he doesn’t have a sweet tooth!) // 5. (this is HILARIOUS)// 6. // 7. // 8. // 9. // 10. // 11. // 12. (maybe from his little lady?)// 13. (because pizza=love) // 14. // 15. 

Have a great weekend everyone!