Monthly Archives: May 2015

Fashion Friday: Summer Favorites

It feels a little like summer already (what happened to mild springs? I know I had them as a kid…) But I welcome the warmer weather and with that some new clothes and accessories! Here are some of my current faves for summer-

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1. I love these turkish towels for picnics, the beach and in a snap- a sarong or scarf!

2. Bold print bikinis like this one from J.Crew.

3. I LOVE these dresses from Persifor- and am ordering this version now!  They are made of this stretchy almost bathing suit like fabric that keeps you cool in hot weather, never clings and is such a flattering cut (and great for ladies with a little extra in the belly right now!)

4. Adore these giant tassel earrings– a perfect way to dress up a simple summer dress or jeans and a tank!

5. I just picked these jeweled sandals in New York this week, and they were on sale!  Jeweled flats are all the rage this season.

6. A fun stripe and pom pom raffia clutch.

7. A floppy sun hat perfect for keeping those damaging rays off your face at the beach.

8.  A long (on sale!) horn pendant. Also this version.

9. Big sunnies– obviously.

10. + 13.  I am loving the pairing of a classic striped tee with a tea length floral full skirt! So cute!!!

11. An awesome and simple white dress that can take you absolutely anywhere this summer- the beach,drinks, dinner…(and it’s on sale!)

12. A lightweight scarf to pair with dresses and tanks.



On Waiting.

collection of vintage alarm clocks

One of my friends sent me this article yesterday and I’ve read it twice since.  I urge you to read it, it’s so superbly done. For many reasons this story resonates with me and is something I’ve wanted to discuss for a while since finding out I was pregnant… waiting until later in life to have children.

While I have struggled with infertility, I’ve struggled even more with the decision to get pregnant in the first place.  I discussed this feeling in my book a little, but wanted to go a little deeper into it here.  As long as I can remember, I never felt a strong urge to be a mother. Even as my friends began lamenting how much they desired babies, I didn’t feel the primal urge- the deep hunger for offspring- in my bones.  When I was around little kids and babies, instead of feeling like my ovaries might explode from desire, I instead felt a little more like ” Man, I’m glad I get to leave here by myself”.  Like the author of the above article, I cherish my alone time.   As you know, I too struggle with anxiety, and am by all accounts an introvert.  Once I get out and around people I enjoy myself, but choosing to go be social is the hard part for me. I’d much rather stay home and watch Netflix with Andrew than go to a party.  Cancelled plans are my drug of choice.

At the same time as all my peers where having babies, I was birthing a career.  Right when I “should” have been having kids at 32, I was busy signing my first book deal and frantically working to keep up with demand of this blog and my long client list. I loved it, it was everything I had hoped for and more and didn’t feel like anything was missing.  Not only did I not have room in my life for a kid, I didn’t want to make the room.  But I felt this societal pressure to WANT to have kids, and I am an easy victim of peer pressure and bucking to what the media deems I should want. So we pulled the goalie, per say, and kind of half-heartedly tried to get pregnant for a year.  Knowing now what I know about conception, our “trying” was total bullshit. All those years we spent worried about accidentally pregnant, and it turns out you have like, a 48 hour window to get pregnant. And with both our travel schedules alone, this made it impossible half the months of that year.  I was never worried about it though because I was still so ambivalent about the whole thing.  Every month I would be “sad”  externally about not conceiving, when really inside I felt a rush of relief.

And then I turned 34 and started thinking, well, what if something is wrong with me? I had heard grumblings about damaging my fertility from doctors when I was being treated for anorexia in my teens, and the fear started to creep in that they were right. What if I couldn’t get pregnant naturally? What if this took five years?  I love to comply to a schedule, and so far everything had happened as it should: married at 26, first home purchased at 26, career solidly in place by 30…so the baby thing was started to fall way off schedule, and that stressed me out. So we went to see a fertility doctor who told us basically, there was no reason I wasn’t getting pregnant medically, but to speed things up since I was “older”, we should try IUI.

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Fashion Friday: A Little Forgiveness

While I am almost 15 weeks along in my pregnancy, I have yet to develop a baby bump.  Instead I have what I like to call a “baby gut”.  I’ve only gained a couple pounds so far, but my body has changed already, my tummy is rounder and softer and my boobs are RIDICULOUS.  No seriously, I’m busting out of DD bras and have no idea what to do from here- am I going to have to have bigger ones made on Etsy? Crocheted maternity bras anyone?  Anyways, I’ve been able to still wear my regular jeans, but I am prefer to wear them with looser tops and alternatively, looser dresses.  And I have to be able to wear a bra or watch out.

But pregnant or not, who doesn’t like to wear more forgiving things, especially in spring and summer where loose and flowy is the name of the game? So I rounded up some of my current favorites that I’ve loved wearing for those who also have a little one growing or perhaps just have a Chipotle burrito baby bump to conceal. :)

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